Ask guy your dating your boyfriend
to know the status of our relationship, like right this second.
As soon as he and I were alone back at his place, the tsunami brewing in my head all night came rushing forth, catching my guy completely off guard.
If it’s a good relationship, if you connect and genuinely get and appreciate each other, then it will just happen.
And you won’t even feel that anxiety that comes from not knowing.
However, I’d say three months is a pretty universal expiration date for feeling things out. In my case, I wanted a committed relationship and instead settled for something that made me feel inadequate and kind of pathetic.
By that point, you should have an idea of where things are headed. And because I wasn’t fully clear on what I wanted, and what I would and would not settle for, I convinced myself that this non-relationship would suffice.
When you are solid in your convictions you will be able to come from a place of confidence and high self-worth, which ultimately sets the foundation for you to get what it is you want. Don’t do it when you’re drunk or in an overly emotional state. The fact is, men typically do not respond well when a woman is coming at them from a place of emotion.
Again, just make sure you don’t come at him from a needy or desperate place. Don’t blame or attack him for feeling the way he does, just acknowledge what he’s saying and tell him you understand where he’s coming from (and try to do this genuinely).If he says he doesn’t want to be official what will you do? Instead, just casually say something like, “You know, for the past few months I feel like you’ve been acting like my boyfriend, is that fair to assume?” Or ask if you could introduce him to your friends as your boyfriend.Don’t let other people tell you how your relationship should or shouldn’t be.Every relationship is a unique experience and moves at a different rate.